Cuddling.

The boyfriend once told me that I’m a very affectionate person. I think he’s right. ;)

I love hugs, snuggles and most especially cuddles. So today, I was leafing through an old copy of Cosmopolitan and found an interesting article about “What His Cuddling Body Language Reveals” and though I’d like to share it with my dear blog readers.

• He pulls you onto his chest.

While this dude may present himself as a tough guy, he's really a big softie. "By bringing you close to his heart, he's symbolically showing you that he's attached," explains communication expert Audrey Nelson, PhD, author of You Don't Say. "Holding you against a masculine part of his body — his chest — is also his way of letting you know he can protect you." This dependable nurturer loves taking care of his woman, whether he's hanging shelves or propping you up after a work debacle.

• He spoons you.

Think about this snuggle position: curled up body-to-body. "He's a really physical person who enjoys the feeling of your form against his," says Nelson. "But while he truly enjoys the contact of cuddling, he might not be as comfortable expressing himself emotionally." Expect him to show you his affection with his gestures and actions, rather than with words.

• He puts his head in your lap.

If you're a woman who loves taking care of a guy, you've hit the jackpot. "Men who prefer this position tend to be a little needy in relationships — they look to their girlfriends to make them feel good about themselves," explains Peter A. Andersen, PhD, professor of communications at San Diego State University and author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Body Language. "He's also comfortable with his emotions, very sensitive, and willing to share what's in his head." This dude wants to make you happy!

• He throws an arm around you.

"Putting one arm around you is not a very intimate move," says Andersen. "It's sort of the bare minimum — he's doing the requisite cuddle, but without adjusting his position or comfort level at all." The good news: He recognizes that close contact is important to you and respects your needs enough to snuggle, even if it is just for your sake.

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After all that’s said and done, I’m proud to say that “The Boyfriend” is a little bit of everything stated above. He’s a tough guy and he's also really a big softie. He shows his affection with his gestures and actions, rather than with words. He's also comfortable with his emotions, very sensitive, and willing to share what's in his head. He recognizes that close contact is important to me and respects my needs enough to snuggle.


So gentlemen, What sort of a cuddler are you? Ladies, what sort of a cuddler is your Prince Charming? ;)
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p/s: For more articles of such, head on over to www.cosmopolitan.com

p/ss: Yes, I do Love The Boyfriend. Very much. Ü

Have a jolly good year end everyone!

Love & Lust.

In an attempt to be a writer, I have to write what I know. I’ve contemplated writing anything Legal, because I’m a Law student and working in the Legal line. I’ve also contemplated writing something music related, photography related or book related stuffs because those are where my passion can be found. Then I realize, what a foolish person I have been. I may know plenty about Law, music, photography or books, but it’ll never beat what I know best; Love.

Oh yes, I am, indeed, a self-proclaimed hopeless romantic. I derive pleasure in sappy love stories and romantic one-liner or quotes. I grew up hoping that one day I’ll meet my Prince Charming who would melt me like Jerry Maguire’s classic “You Complete Me” type of quote or even better, like Jack in Titanic – “You jump; I Jump”. Alas, the world we live in these days, you just can’t help but wonder if True Love really do exist at all!

Do not be misleaded by my previous statement. I am not, I repeat, not a cynic. You see, the truth is that people tend to give you all this bullshit about Love at First Sight, bla bla bla bla.. Nauseating! Admit it; it was Lust at first sight instead!

I don’t get how you can fall “in love” with someone you just saw for the very first time. Serendipity, you said? Fortunate Accident? Well darling, even Johnathan and Sara had to spend some time together, ie eight hours in the movie Serendipity to end up falling in love with each other!

Look, all I’m trying to say is this: when you meet a person for the very first time, that ain’t Love. That’s Lust. Infatuation. Crush. All these, fade with time. However, as you get to know the person on a deeper level, after communication and sharing, then, you fall “In Love” with that person. I do know that Love is not measured by the length of time you know a person. What I meant is you have to know the person, personality and flaws, to really love them, not merely by first impression and appearance. In case you don’t already notice, We’re not 16 anymore!

A New Beginning. A new transformation.

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Project 2010 - in planning Mode.

I've been meaning to start a more professional blog. Been tossing between a Legal blog or a Photography blog. Either way, I need to get my props prepared first! Or maybe i should just Review books since i'm such an avid reader. So much ideas running through my mind. Let it be named as Project 2010! ;)

Will keep you posted!

These Long and Winding Roads

I'm Falling apart, Barely breathing. I'm in so much pain.

But I'm holding on. Barely, but i'm holding on for just another day.

I'll keep walking down these windy road. I may be a fallen warrior in the eyes of many; but I won't be that way for long. I'll stand back up again, soon. I'll keep holding my head up high, chins up, armored in my warrior suit, I'll keep fighting this battle.

I promise.

08/12/09

Cindy's 2010 Thing To Get List

It's December. Final "BER" Month as well as the final month of the year. Initially, I had wanted to blog about the past happenings throughout the year, but I figured I shall leave that to the last day of the year where I will recap on the happenings; both sad and happy of 2009.

Here's what I want to blog about right now:- My 2010 Things to get Wishlist! ;) Let's just say they're my Goals for the next year to work hard for and to painfully save up for! :p Let's start! I'm super itching to lay down my new sexy to get toys already! :))

Cindy's 2010 Things To Get List:

1. a Nikon dSLR (Its a MUST get for 2010. Been waiting for far too long now!)
2. a nice Butterfly Pendant (Havent gotten myself any bling bling in a while ;) )
3. a Nice Ladies Watch ( Not to expensive, I may be Careless!)
4. a Lovely plane ticket out of Malaysia to Philippines for myself (and parents) by mid next year
5. a Nice little new pair or Sunnies for my travellings and beach trips :D
6. Sports Bag (for Gym trips)
7. Nice new earphone for my trusted Pink (ew!) MP4.
8. New Curtains for my awesome bedroom :D
9. New Mini Travelling Bag (for my monthly trip back to hometown)
10. My new Car! (Finally!)

Not too bad of a list, isn't it? Apart from the hot new car :p and the sexy new dSLR :p the rest are more or less achievable. So what are yours? I bet you must have a few things lined up for your wishlist as well isn't it? Ü

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Enjoy your month of December! ;)

Who am I? Who are You? Who are We?

I have been utterly captivated by my most recent read;- Veronika Decides To Die by the ever so talented Paulo Coelho. I am already half way through, when this particular extract caught my eye, and I thus decide to blog about it. Here's how it goes:

"She had over come her minor defects, only to be defeated by matters of fundamental importance. she had managed to appear utterly independent, when she was, in fact, desperately in need of company. When she entered a room, everyone would turn to look at her, but she almost always ended the night alone, in the convent, watching a TV that she hadn't even bothered to have properly tuned in. She gave all her friends the impression that she was a woman to be envied, and she expended most of her energy in trying to behave in accordance with the image she had created of herself.

Because of that,she had never had enough energy to be herself, a person who, like everyone else in the world, needed other people in order to be happy.... She may have impressed a lot of people with her strength and determination, but where had it left her? In the void, Utterly alone."

Sounds familiar? Sounds like someone you know?
It sure does sounds like someone I know - M.E.

Many times I wished I had the strength and the capacity to just do something out of the extraordinary...Something that is not on my daily constant monotanous basis. Something,for myself.I guess no matter how much I wih for that, it will never happen. You and I. We're all so similar. We live for others. We don't live for ourselves. Call me a bull. You know it's true. So now I wonder, what is, the true purpose to life when we're all living in a void, alone and in denial of the fact that happiness sems far fetched.

What is happiness to you? Are you happy?
If you are; I wished you could teach me because i am far from it.

Like I said, again and again, previously:-

Baby steps; Learning, Grasping. Next step- Implementation.

06/12/09

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p/s: It's my late choir master's 1st death anniversary today. RIP Robert Phang.You're always in our thoughts and fond memories.Remembrance of you everlasting.

My Agape; My Family

It has been a roller coaster ride lately; not thrilling nor exciting, but scary. Looking back on the happenings within the past 11 months just brought both smiles and tears to my eyes. It has never been easy from the moment the family was dealt with the news that their other parent, their dad, is diagnosed with cancer as well; the one thing, that took our mom away.

We're all grown up. My 3 brothers and I. I being the youngest, and eldest brother being 33 years old. Losing mom has never been easy, even after so many years. Sometimes, i see my brothers and dad as well still shedding tears during our annual visit to mom's grave back at hometown. The fact that dad is battling the same illness as well broke my brothers; emotionally. I see my tough brothers crumbling in sobs, needing to be held. I see my brothers looking lost.



Dad has lost 25 kilograms since the first day he was diagnosed with the illness. I see my hero, gradually losing strength and courage to fight and battle it himself. Everyone is living on a day to day basis, worrying and scared about what would happen next.



I, on the other hand, am glad, and thankful, that dad, no matter how weak he is, emotionally and physically, still has it in him to keep on fighting. A true hero indeed. He is scared. He is human, just like everyone else - but, he is my dad. A frail human no doubt, but a true warrior in him. He's still fighting it. So are we.


My family, we've always been One - Collectively, together, supportively, we're bounded by the Love shown by my dad and mom.



-My family, together with My Uncle and Grandnana Ü . Dad is the one in White. Mom's behind me-

I ♥ my Family.

Addiction.

The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession,
compulsion, or excessive psychological dependence

Via Wikipedia.Org

So, here are 5 things that I am Obsessed with, or have excessive psychological dependency on :p :-

• Coffee

I can NEVER, and i mean NEVER, get through my day without having at least a cuppa coffee. Being named an excessive Coffee freak by my colleagues, I usually get by with a minimum of 3 cups of coffee. Not that i am proud of this, and neither is this healthy, but being a person who have 17 productive hours, I need my caffeine fix!

• Twitter

I am addicted to Twitter. I have to log in every single day, regardless of where I am; Whether I am having lunch, out travelling, or just chillaxing at home with the girls, I Tweet! The best part is, if i could, I'll tweet the entire day! :p My poor friends and cousins were complaining on how my tweets usually flood their home page. Sorry darlings, I cant help it, but i am a true blue mass twitterer (if there ever is such a prefix) *wink*

• Sappy sad love stories.

I love crying my hearts out, bawling with tears, finishing up a box of tissue, feeling sorry for the hero and heroine from the particular movie, and dream about my love story being that way. So what? Even if at the end of the day - its only movies!

• Reading

Oh I read! I love Reading. I can never get tired of reading. In fact, I stocked up my books so much so that I would never run out of reading material. Indeed, thats the geek in me speaking.

• Hunt for food

Like someone once said, I'm a "Foodie". I love good food. Can you blame me? I definitely live to eat. From Ampang to Petaling Jaya to Kepong to Shah Alam, I hunt, and i Prowl for the best food out there! Nothing can beat Mom's home cooked food though, because it has an extra ingredient called Love. ;)

What are you addicted to? Come of it. You know you have a massive addiction too. ;) Share! Ü

02/12/09